Hello girls! I finally came to lull baby and leave it in his basket! Zoom, I just see you! Well, my daughter is 1 month now and I'm stiff mad crazy about her. I'm breastfeeding, so she is always glued to me (or my within lol). Yesterday, my youngest step-son (13 years) wanted to take her in his arms while I was preparing dinner. On the insistence of the dad, I said yes, aware of the importance they create ties of brother / sister. But then there disaster: I realized I could not stand it either his arms. Without realizing it, he walked with her in his arms, and the baby's head came close many times over the walls … I told him to be careful of my voice the more sedate, but in reality I've realized that I hated it to be with him. For now, she is either with me or with his dad. I find it so fragile … You think I am extreme? @ Pirate: Ouch ouch @ Emma: This is my step-son. It is. It estgentil, but head into the air. He was walking with my daughter in her arms without paying attention, it showed. He even dropped a hand for a drink, walking! I will never forgive him if he came QQE thing to my daughter. You're right, I'll ask him to sit. Two weeks ago (she was 15 days), his father was cleared to climb the stairs with her sister in her arms. I was sick! @ Bell: You're mom? I said the same thing as you when I really was not ana … @ Conda: It's a way to talk, lend, eh! I am also happy that he is interested in her sister (the two largest not have anything to do), but I find it too awkward. He keeps breaking objects already he is not careful. Cecile @: Thank you! I realize that I mix very different feelings. And I gotta work. Despite all my efforts for 5 years, I can not imagine to be a family in the truest sense of the word with my wife's son. Because even though we share many things together, I. Because even though we share many things together, I "suffered" when even their presence. I did not choose! Especially in this time, they do nothing at home to help me, as if they were at the hotel. So, I live among them as evil, I know .., @ Cecilia: It is extremely inconsistent this step-son: he has a habit of making beautiful mistakes, and apologize later … Except that when one hits a skull of one month old baby against a wall, the excuses do not matter …
Far too possessive, yes.
No I understand you! I'm like this is, if you do not want to create tension in the family, allows his half-brother to take but only when it is placed quietly on the sofa for instance, with you or his father's side. So you do shalt not stress every time his head grazes a cabinet! With my son I was like you to start as soon as someone took it I stopped breathing while trying to keep a normal head!
This is normal, it did a month and it is fragile. You should allow this young man to take, but only on a bed or sitting.
no doubt. you remember a friend who always speaks of his daughter, who always psychotic for his daughter, who does everything a mountain of nothing when it comes to SA girl ….. there is nothing more than a mother in the world Enervent excessive ha if perhaps these children when they grow up …
hello, yes too possessive! Already the word "OPEN"! This is not an object (sorry but that word offends me). Entrusting would be more appropriate. It is normal to have peur.Mon 4th child at 25 days and when his brother took him 12 years, I'm scared too, I'm glad pareil.Mais he wants to take it, rather than mock them. To be afraid is to normal.Delà prevent any manifestation of tenderness, this would be a shame.
my kid 3 years old the other day wanted to take my boy ben necessarily after I said no, you can offer him to sit on the sofa with her, right? he is sitting comfortably possessiveness "is a phase normal, but it must still be careful not to shut himself in a bit … let your daughter but when he sat dasn a chair or sofa for instance, at least it's reassuring to see you take good care her safe and after you leave more easily
Your daughter is not glass. We must accustom with the people around you so that it is not wild.
There are two distinct feelings in what you're telling us there … First, the "fear" (very legitimate) because a teen is a little awkward in her arms, your little princess! Reminds me a bit …. me, when my youngest was born! My daughter was 16 years and took care of like a second mommy, but my son was just 13 years too! But he wanted to take her little sister in his arms (while having a little afraid …), then confided to him when he was sitting comfortably on the sofa … he did not acrobatics, do not walk with her in his arms, etc … cons but he loved to give him the bottle (with me to oversee operations, hey ho, anyway, hahaha …). The second feeling I find in your story, and then there …. it angers me I do not hide it, it's jealousy against the brother and the sense of "ownership" to this little girl … I know that this is not your own children (I have followed. I know that this is not your own children (I have followed your story Deloin with these kids and their dad …) but for them it is still their little sister, especially since you live in the same roof, so they are required to forge close ties. "I realized I hated it to be with him," "I could not stand it either in his arms "….. AC is still going much further than the fear of seeing him hurt unintentionally, because of his negligence or his young age, right??! It's hard what you say … So, to answer the final question, YES, I think you are too! Be happy that this young boy is interested in your little girl with her, you can become a "real" family is the bond between father, the boys and the "new" mom. I wish you all a happy life, take time to make your mark and enjoy these magical moments with your daughter, time passes so quickly! @ Dding … yes, yes, I understand the problem of '. yes, yes, I understand the problem of 'inconsistency' of the young and I agree with your concern as I told you! On this side there you can (and should!) Imposing your limits and your act (that is still your girl). Namely, it is a tiny baby, it takes until it is seated, and not because he is "only" his half-brother, but because it is too young and head in the air (explain!). … For the rest I do not judge you, your situation is difficult and I've never experienced anything like it … I've just expressed my feelings.
I understand you without having lived the exact same thing. At the birth of my daughter, I could not stand my in-laws take it or keep it. Not for safety reasons, but I do not feel any family relationship with them, then give them my flesh, before being awaited, it was almost unbearable. But I took it upon myself and over time (2 years) I feel better, but it will never be with my family . For your step-son, there is a safety issue as well, just explain that it is not a toy and yet it is better to do than take when he sits. Says also to your spouse and I'm sure everything will be fine.
Yes it is good …. your daughter, but also the beloved sister and thus the SES children who have the same blood (or almost) that you entered your daughter …. For ?…… now your feeling of wanting to protect it's normal it is still quite small, but later when she grows up to 3 years old, she hugged him and he spent hours playing with it for that thou shalt take a bath there you will be glad and yet it still your girl …. At this moment you think back to those times when you were afraid that the case and you say that you do well to let s tame early! Another thing you darling request your permission to take it early or I misunderstood? Because I think it's limited anyway, it's his son who asks to wear his sister, there is no authorization to ask for this so that, for dear eh! So you take on is early as the links are created, so lets do …. on the couch for now I agree. You can also do participate in bath time, it would take to. You can also do participate in bath time, it would take for desphotos him PYJ choose, or you just bring the show to the bathroom. Do not show him that you do not want too it was key that could hurt him and suddenly change their behavior rather sympathetic with his sister. Especially because I think the behavior of the three together you ascend to the head and then I think that if their father does not hit his fist on the table is for you to do that to quarrel with them, must not abuse t 're not their stooge! Well I had a quarter of an hour to hang out here it is with joy that I will have spent;)) Kisses to you and your princess!
ahem ahem … I'll tell you stuff, but not you bite me eh! .. ^ ^ It's your daughter is "only" your step-son, and subconsciously (but actually not that much, because it shows a little), you gonna make a difference … to counter the psychological aftermath of a Beaujolais Nouveau: they already have your baby, and they take your daughter … you feel deprived of the only "thing" that is you (you) in this house, and it is this ownership that you can not stand … I think relativized, you also hold it in one arm while you doing anything on the other hand … you were a beginner, and awkward, it also will … you would have taken it badly yell because you held not "properly", do you think it will be constructive to bawl your step-son because oops, it slipped a little one? in one of your additions, you say you do not have chosen. Well, if, nevertheless, by choosing your beloved, thou hast chosen, too … (I know eh, there's a lot of work …) My second son is a big nag,.) My second son is a big nag, but then ze big big nag (with honey, it's called richard stone, to give you an idea), it was almost 9 years to the birth of his half-sister, and despite its liabilities nag, I have not hesitated to let him drive his sis (bottle, bath) under surveillance. the advantage that my stone was Richard, was that he was also my son ..
They were "tied" vis-à-vis me, if I may say … Come on, hurry up girl … we relax, we take a pti Oinj … ^ ^ (About the response of a bell, there's perhaps not as wrong either … I will admit that a baby is fragile, but it's not, I think, in terms of fragility that make you cringe …)
My treasure to me in 9 months. Monday I was in the Swedish store with him and his godmother, I carried my bag on the shoulder and giving it back the nipple him my bag fell on his head, one can justifiably Chouin but I was collapsed in front of his forehead red. What I mean is that we want to protect it nice we may also do them harm unintentionally. We can not protect them all I think you should explain to your son in law for their own safety that he knows and respects them (take it from underneath the head and buttocks, etc.), but let it take care his little sister can get closer to him and you and allow you to both of you to create a deeper bond. I regret that you speak of these children suffer, trying to create harmony in your family enjoying this little girl you binding. I wish you much happiness and cloudless blue without, or not too …!
I think your feeling is normal, at first I did not like my daughter to be in other arms than mine (breast too)! I think it's a bit of instinct, our baby is so vulnerable! Nevertheless, I hope to reassure you!? Gradually you learn, you learn both to separate you and you do not realize it thee! Also, as a teenager (and still now), I was really left: I bumped into anything and everything , I broke moult thing, finally escaped bcp other cata walking …. yet I've never inadvertently knocked my little brother who is 10 years younger and much less my baby … I did never dropped either … I think in time these shots here we are more alert and much more clever! My advice … do leave at your own pace … if you tracks and stress that's where you run the risk of cata!
baeucoup rop possesions my niece was born in January I had just celebrated my 13 years and yet my sister in law let me wear it when she was one day I could change it! yet his mother something with her daughter as soon as it has has not pooped 12:00 supposing it puts a very frenchies so you can not let you go in that direction! you must speak in a nursery
A future spoiled child who will tell you close your mouth at age 15! Dsl is how it happens! Stay connected to the world especially! otherwise Congratulations!
Good evening, I would say yes you seems a little possessive, but this is quite normal tone has a little bit months. To me it is just pure folly to let a child 13 years ago this walk with a baby in his arms, he can make it fall. I who hate to have my child (not yet started but planned for the next year) I would never let my 9 year niece who'll take this child in his arms before the 3 years of the child. too afraid it falls or other! I'll offer my congratulations for this baby and I am a man XD
As said "Nessy you're the best," we are not parents yet but I work in the middle of childhood and your attitude is more understandable, especially since you know your step-son. There is nothing wrong with being afraid for her child, especially at this age and do not forget that the hormones make you want to protect this little creature that you gave birth. You can talk with the father of your child and tell him about your fears and you agree regarding the baby and her brother sitting on the couch with her sister, yes, but not standing (let alone stairs …). And you're right "when the skull hits a baby one month against a wall, the excuses do not matter …". Caution is the mother of safety ….. Good luck and congratulations for that bit!
I understand you perfectly. He can be very bad to him banging his head against a wall or something else and that he could leave scars which can not realize that after years. A mother should protect her baby, and when he begins to grow, ben! then she leaves him breathe and live his life.