I'll describe the scene that took place last night in my house, you tell me what you think … With my companion, we have a newborn to 3 weeks. The baby cries a lot, in general, and my breastfeeding does not go very well. The doctor advised me to drink more water (for nursing), and especially to relax, to be Zen. My partner has accepted the fact that I do drink not enough water (to make reproaches me), but not the party he or I must be calm and relaxed … So last night, baby cries, I isolate myself in my room to nurse quietly . I try that this moment is a golden opportunity and harmony, to stimulate lactation and that my baby will relax a little. So I undressed my baby to the "skin to skin" that, parrait it is beneficial. During the Stubborn, I bunch softly, talking, singing little songs to him softly. Little heart seems to appreciate, I feel all his little muscles relax … When you leave the room. Leaving the sallepour breastfeed, I ask my companion to keep our dog because she is mischievous (and a little boring at this time) and arrives to open the bedroom door. I ask him to call and to keep the time of breastfeeding. Sir, lethargy completely (as usual), mumbles the name of the dog from the depths of the sofa, as if I asked the moon. So I closed the door behind me room to be quiet. Two minutes later, I do not know how the dog is found in my room too … ask Mr occupy a bit of time to breastfeeding … So, while I was Train to breastfeed baby quiet, I can take care of the dog that bit my feet (because not only do I have access to the bed). So big stress. So I scream (no choice) to remind her dog Mr. Baby stress. The man shows up, gets the dog, baby relaxes re … But the bitch still angry (she is very young), is a big poop before the Board. Male obliged to pick up, it is not. Men have to pick it up, and is pascontent indicated. Loudly, very loudly (he yells at the dog, and seems to have all the misery of the world on his shoulders because he has to pick up a shit) Baby startled, even a little Chouin. I try to calm him, but Man takes me to task for the dog "why she did that? for revenge? hey ho, why the dog shit on our doorstep ????" Trying to ignore such sentences as I tried to create a harmony for the baby and I do not respond. There, Man "go ahead, answer me not YOU" (with the "you" very scornfully) I point out that I had nothing to say about dog shit , I just thought of something else during lactation. Normal. He replied, tjs contemptuous "yeah it's easy. Before pregnancy, breastfeeding now. Come on, it remains in your bubble And it arises out full length on the bed, without any delicacy. Baby and Me startled. In short, breastfeeding resumes nilly. Mr. stinks, it's a horror. It is. It is since two months, so that lethargy does not wash any more simply. It stinks of dog, I do not even know what he has seen the market smell of his feet, he felt the perspiration, that is atrocious. and it is av his clothes all dirty in bed or breastfeeding baby … I ask him kindly to go and wash. To motivate them, (yes I am), I told him that we might be for a "big hug" after. It goes to the bathroom, grumbling, and started swearing altogether ( against me) because there was some water on the floor. I forgot to wipe off after my shower. I'd just type in any soil disinfection of the apartment because the dog still is not clean … But Mr. rattle bored. Suddenly, he returns and réétale in bed, without taking his shower. Bouir I start and said that out of respect for others, it can take a shower, it takes two minutes. And it can also make the effort for the dog, and he is asked not to me talk like a shit while breastfeeding. He, he do not care the full. He, he do not care full Latronche. I try not to irritate me not to stress baby, it's difficult. So little silence, I took it upon myself not to unleash the row. He shall one layer on another subject entirely futile. Nothing to care if I breastfeed. And the dog continues to bite my feet. The tears come to something big, I want to scream and break everything, but I restrain myself because baby in her arms. Little angel feel my stress and I feel all his little angel feel my stress and I feel all his little muscles that extend it. I take my baby from the breast (and yes), got up and said "my heart go, sorry it goes elsewhere … "The man gets up annoyed at his turn, and part (with the dog this time), sleeping on the couch. Baby, too stressed, no longer will resume in the evening. He finished his meal a bottle … The worst thing is that the moral man is my first son 6 years because it stresses the mother hamster when she breastfeeds her children, she may no longer 's deal with it … (yes, it has a range of. (Yes, it has a range dehamsters) Well, that's my everyday life. Every day, a scene like this. Since this morning, I have virtually no milk, as if it was cut … Since I'm standing, Mr. left the couch spread (always fully clothed ) in the bed and end his night. IT is still there. I tried talking to him last night, it does not react even … Every day, he promises he will change, every day is like that. There is no single day or I'm not crying, and my body is a ball of stress (I'm stuck anywhere) The arrival of the baby must be a dream, it's just a nightmare … I want so much it goes well … What to do? What do you think? horace @ slug: well no, not inches of all, it's worse. Stefff @: But yes I try to involve him and try to interest the baby! … But there is virtually no interest, and rattle even the cries of babies are too strident … I do not understand not so much what they were expecting baby … @ horace. Horacela @ slug: uh … no, abuse, this is not me. Actually, I never noticed until that moment we could just post abuse.
What a story …
put the baby in the garbage or in the freezer, and everything will be normal! Hits although some who do, why not you? bah ah you got stuck an abuse! I'll bet I thankest!
must be your guy moves a little. Do you do participate in the spots on the baby because I think he feels a little left out. It causes you to make you care for him. One thing is sure, if my man let go, there is no question that he sleeps in my bed with dirty feet and the smell of perspiration. Tell him he has an interest in taking the problem in hand if he want a real relationship, do not let things get worse. Good luck.
It's difficult: your guy is probably jealous he must share with you your dog is jealous of the baby (see the poop!) You need more zen but your baby will suffer. We should talk (but cautiously !) especially your guy does not realize he is jealous and he can not control his jealousy.
your companion and your dog are jealous, because the baby takes their places!
A proverb says that one must "avoid the unacceptable and accept the inevitable." It seems to me that your companion is in the position of the unacceptable. Have you tried to do more to participate in the arrival of your son. What I do not understand is this letting go. It is a disrespect to you. You're patient, you're right because at stake is the life of your couple. I would have talked a lot, quietly, would have been involved in the arrival of the small end. Change he walks? Does he cuddle? Do they have two moments etc..? Furthermore, it is difficult for a man and also for the dog (!) To find their places in the new pair that you form with your child. Good luck.
The most effective way is to see a social worker: it is crucial for the development a bit 'normal' for your baby, otherwise it could turn really sour. Do not take my advice lightly, it is very important . A good social worker will be more effective than all the 'advice' that can give you on this site!
Let me tell you that Madame you exactly two babies. One in the skin of a man who would be jealous of the other who needs her feeding and her mother. He lets himself go without cleaning because he feels helpless since you care for your baby. So I think that dealing with the delicacy and not with cries of his conduct or remarks of a child in need that are interested in him will change completely. So it's as a child he may have a positive attitude at home and take part in activities. I have no recipe to give you advice but you know your husband and you know so take as a mother and wife at the same time.
You just listed black and white what was wrong +, the list is depressingly long! There is not even weigh the pros and cons, the cons wins hands down. Give yourself clearly, communication is broken, the relationship is based on conflict. Must it not for your well-being and that of the baby that you leave this man? Only you can decide, that man will not assume his role as father, even less responsible than the spouse, it lacks the mental capacity to cope. The only thing he is capable of is to create conflict and you will tear-up between the extreme limit which inevitably lead to separation. Your partner feeds conflicts to liberate his suffering, and you are subject to discharge, + he uses it to set the dose, knowing that you'll remember not to stress the baby, it's perverse, c east of psychological abuse. Talk to your parents discreetly (or a child psychiatrist, avoids social workers, their solution is the DDASS). Talk to your parents discreetly (or a child psychiatrist, avoids social workers, their solution is DDASS), but must ACT, we must put an end to this toxic to you and the baby. Be strong, so you gotta make a decision, it must be taken quickly, otherwise you'll do nothing, and that's life will decide your place, EXPENDITURES YOUR BABY A and you'll make the right choice ….. I'm sending a shower of good vibes, I am wholeheartedly with you.
Why you ask your larva well talk to you when you breastfeed? you estimate that can say anything when you're not breastfeeding? in fact, I do not know what to say I pity you, child, baby the dog and hamsters …. good luck
I wonder if your man was like that before your pregnancy. I'm always surprised to see women make babies with guys who are real … I'll say? " trouduculs. Not only for herself (tensions between the couple, live longer with a pig that stinks, but hello 
(), damage to the baby and your first child to suffer so I'm wrong can be but men usually do not change overnight, and for me it would be no question of having a child with a guy like that. Now that your child is there, you have to think about the life you want for you and your children. Living with a guy who clearly respects neither he nor anyone else, ask yourself if you really love him, and if it's worth the sacrifices you currently live. Talk to him, tell him why he behaves this way (if change there), what feelings he feels for his family, and put him ultimatums shower every day, looking after the dog, have a minimum of respect and concern for you and the kids. Once.'ll Quetu Once an update … is for you to see the decision. Good luck
your companion is a depression, right? The arrival of a baby upsets the mothers, fathers, couples … it is not all rosy. He should be able to express what he feels about his paternity, but not with you, it would be too confrontational. With a therapist would be ideal. You'll have to tell him that you see he is ill and he needs help. If he refuses, consider a temporary separation, does not sink with him.
phew I will wait for a drink and I come back